SMS (or text messaging to you non-Danes) the wonder communication tool- fast, quick, easy unobstrusive...and very very annoying!
Take late night smsing for example, or worse still drunk smsing!! There is no way to take them back and it is incredibly easy to say something stupid to someone who really counts. Everybody has their cell phone on them at all times.. it's the law, I mean you have to, right?
So you send an sms to someone that matters- no reply... you wait and wait- no reply. ARGH what do you do?? How frustrating is that?! I mean at least with email you can think -well maybe they're not logged on.. but with a cell phone, well it's a cell phone!!!
The reply would be an affirmation that I exist.. without that reply- heck I don't exist! What does it take to make me smile? Send expensive flowers, chocolates? No, but a reply to my sms would be nice...
Relationships are difficult at the best of times, but limit communication to sms and you have a catastrophic margin for misunderstanding.. did that smiley mean he was being sarcastic? Without the subtle intonation one finds in voice communication or the glimmer one can see only in the eye, all is open to misinterpretation.
And for me this misinterpretation is doubled with my lack of Danish language skills! Imagine smsing important relationship-deciding messages in a foreign language! It's little wonder why my world is so complicated and why I am so misunderstood!
Love. It's a very difficult and fucked up thing, takes a lot of energy thinking constantly about someone, and with little or no reward most times. I envy those people that can think with their heads and not their hearts.